I highly highly recommend downloading this, it breaks this all down beautifully....

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Here is an excerpt:

In order to better understand the complexity of human relationships,
it is helpful to understand the workings of the tribal mind.
All of us are born into a “tribal mentality” of various forms. These
include our family unit, religious background, country of origin, ethnicity,
etc. The tribal mentality involves our spirit in specific thought
forms held by the group; it effectively marinates an individual in the
tribe’s beliefs, ensuring that all believe the same. The structure of reality—
what is and is not possible for the members of the group—is thus
agreed upon and maintained. While the tribal mentality has definite
benefits in terms of establishing common ground and ensuring group
survival, it is not a conscious agreement. At a certain stage in our
evolution, both personally and collectively, the tribal mentality must
be challenged.
As a species, we have become incredibly dishonorable. We don’t
think twice about breaking vows or promises. We can’t even keep
our word to ourselves anymore. I’m hoping that people will begin to
recognize the need for a personal honor code independent of the tribe.
We need to learn how to treat everyone—regardless of tribal affiliation—
with absolute honor.
Every one of us is plugged into the tribal mind. We finance the
belief patterns of the tribe by directing a percentage of our life force
into maintaining our affiliation with the tribe. What that means from
an energetic point of view is that our individual energetic circuits go
into prolonging the life force of the tribe to which we belong. This
involves an implicit agreement to think like the tribe thinks, to evaluate
situations and people the way the tribe does, and to believe in
right and wrong according to tribal values and tribal ambitions. As
long as the tribal mentality remains unexamined and transparent to
awareness, we unwittingly subject others to our tribal laws.
When we are plugged into tribal thought forms, we can easily
believe in nonsensical prejudices held by the tribe. Examples of this in
our world are obvious. Tribal mentality allows us to hold a position or
attitude about an entire group of people: “All fat people are lazy,” or
“all Irish are drunks,” for example. A tribal thought form may have
no truth to it whatsoever, but individuals hold to such beliefs because
that perspective is what the tribe has agreed to believe. Innocent
children, born into the hatred and prejudice of their parents and
ancestors, grow up inside a tribal mentality that sponsors the endless
march toward war. People grow up hating other people—people they
have never seen—based on group affiliation. This is the shadow side
of the tribe.
Inevitably, some among us come to a point
where we want to break out of the tribal mentality.
This is inevitable because the nature of consciousness
pushes us to evolve. At some point,
the individual wants to explore, develop, and
manage his or her own consciousness without the limitations of the
tribal mind. It is easy to spot these mavericks when they start to question
and unplug from tribal mentality—they hang out on the periphery
looking bored and restless, or whimsical and dreamy. Others will
act out the agitated hot-head as they challenge tribal ways.